Love this! And I too have no kids and faraway family... and have been somewhat of a gypsy in own life. So yes to medium friends! And this ...
"Who we are, what we need, how we show up—all of it changes, all the time. I’m deeply grateful for the opportunity to meet my friends again and again, to love both who we were and who we’re becoming. "
Thought provoking, for sure! (Which, for context, is high praise.) I've always tended to migrate towards the few, really deep friendships that are rare. And now that I'm years out of grad school and run my own business, the opportunities to nurture and cultivate those relationships to that "big friend" level are increasingly rare, especially with my somewhat introverted tendencies.
I think I need the idea of medium friends as a way to make space for those who have not (yet?) become "big friends" but might, given the opportunity.
"Who we are, what we need, how we show up—all of it changes, all the time." Timely reminder.
thanks for your thoughts on that article! I did not read it because I found the title and concept irritating--why apply that kind of scarcity mindset and scoring to friendship, of all things? and I hope you love The Husbands--I really liked it!
I read the article mostly for the ~drama~ but it ended up sparking some interesting thoughts and also a whole newsletter. :) And I LOVE The Husbands. So many fun twists! The multiverse plot line is really having a moment.
Love this! And I too have no kids and faraway family... and have been somewhat of a gypsy in own life. So yes to medium friends! And this ...
"Who we are, what we need, how we show up—all of it changes, all the time. I’m deeply grateful for the opportunity to meet my friends again and again, to love both who we were and who we’re becoming. "
Thanks so much for reading and for highlighting that line in particular! I wrote and rewrote it about 17 times. :)
Thought provoking, for sure! (Which, for context, is high praise.) I've always tended to migrate towards the few, really deep friendships that are rare. And now that I'm years out of grad school and run my own business, the opportunities to nurture and cultivate those relationships to that "big friend" level are increasingly rare, especially with my somewhat introverted tendencies.
I think I need the idea of medium friends as a way to make space for those who have not (yet?) become "big friends" but might, given the opportunity.
"Who we are, what we need, how we show up—all of it changes, all the time." Timely reminder.
Great point about medium friends becoming big friends down the road - you'll never know unless you give them a chance and put in the time!
thanks for your thoughts on that article! I did not read it because I found the title and concept irritating--why apply that kind of scarcity mindset and scoring to friendship, of all things? and I hope you love The Husbands--I really liked it!
I read the article mostly for the ~drama~ but it ended up sparking some interesting thoughts and also a whole newsletter. :) And I LOVE The Husbands. So many fun twists! The multiverse plot line is really having a moment.